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The Real Reason Why Teens Use Drugs

11/25/2014

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Over half of American kids have tried a drug by the end of their teenage years. That percentage drops to less than 20% when describing those who use drugs on a regular basis. In 2002, a survey conducted by CASA found that 46% of students at public schools and 24% of students at private schools reported drug use at their school. In 2012, those numbers rose to 61% for public school and 54% for private school.

We have a solid understanding of why teens
try
drugs. They try because of curiosity, peer pressure, rebellion, independence and boredom to name a few.

But why do teens
use drugs? Why do drugs become an integral part of their life?

In working with teens, they have confirmed a couple of national statistics. The vast majority are introduced to drugs by peers, marijuana is usually the first drug used, and almost all know someone who abuses drugs regularly.

So why do teens use drugs?

Part of therapy is helping people gain insight and awareness into their behavior. Whether the behavior is healthy or unhealthy, positive or negative, I work with each person to critically think about what benefit they are receiving from the behavior. It may sound odd to consider negative behaviors as beneficial, but they are being repeated for a reason, even drug use.

I get the same answer, over and over, from teens. They use drugs because it numbs the emotional pain in their life. Drugs make problems and emotions go away. I've yet to work with a happy-go-lucky teen who uses drugs. I've yet to work with a drug-using teen who doesn't have deeper issues that have been years in the making.


My approach in therapy to helping teens understand their drug use revolves around three issues: attachment, life experiences, and coping capacity.

Attachment.


I'm embarrassed that I have written so little on such an important topic. Attachment is the foundation of human development. Attachment refers to the emotional bond or connection one human being has with another. This process starts at birth. When a healthy attachment is formed, the result is a person who feels safe, secure, curious, and confident.

So what does infant attachment have to do with teens and drug use? Glad you asked. Longitudinal studies have found that teens with healthy attachments are less likely to engage in risky sexual behavior, excessive drinking, and drug abuse. Teens with healthy attachments feel loved, manage stress more effectively, and are less likely to be influenced to partake in negative behaviors. Teens with unhealthy attachments tend to be more anxious and withdrawn, as well as experience more trauma in their lives.


Life experiences.

Every teen with a drug issue that I've worked with has trauma in their past. Not necessarily traditional trauma (assault, death of loved one, abuse, etc.), but attachment trauma. Amongst many, a common life theme teens report is parental conflict. “My parents don't like or have time for me,” or even “My parents hate me, they wish I was never born.” Some teens draw these conclusions on their own, but parents have said these things to their children.

I know people reading are probably mortified by these statements but it happens regularly. Be careful what you say and don't be afraid to apologize. Everyone has said something they regret. Mistakes happen but make sure you repair the damage. Teens may seem distant, insensitive and self-centered, but they are still profoundly impacted by words. So imagine having an unhealthy attachment (feeling insecure, unloved, neglected) and then add negative life experiences.


Coping capacity.

I mentioned earlier how an unhealthy attachment is marked by an inability to manage stress, feelings of worthlessness, and poor self-esteem. I am regularly surprised by how many teens have difficulty giving examples of how they positively handle life stress. Part of my work is starting with the basics of coping.

Drug use is a coping mechanism. Drug use may seem like deviant behavior, but it's more about filling a void and numbing emotions. Increasing a teens coping capacity to include positive coping skills will give the teen more confidence to lean on those positive strategies instead of holding on to drug abuse.


You may feel my approach in this post isn't harsh or critical enough toward teens and illegal behavior. I know for parents a drug-abusing teen can cause anxiety, extreme stress, and even marital discord. With that said, I believe it's time to start thinking of teen drug use as a symbol of personal struggle and inadequacy instead of rebellion and deviance.

I felt ambivalent about posting this during a holiday week when most are in a celebratory state of mind. However, if you find yourself thinking, “What went wrong with my child, friend, sibling?” or you're feeling confused on how to help, I hope this post was helpful.

Reflect on the themes of attachment, life experiences, and coping capacity of the person on your mind. Also, parents and families will have more time with their kids this time of year. It might be a great time to emotionally connect with your child to strengthen that attachment.




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Salmaan Toor is a licensed clinical psychologist practicing in Knoxville, TN. If you are interested in being notified of future posts, you can “like” The Family Center of Knoxville on facebook here or can follow me on Twitter here. Thanks for your support!

3 Comments
David Roppo link
12/15/2016 07:29:53 am

Absolutely correct Salmaan. Couldn't agree more. Addiction is generated in family relationship dynamics. Teens and young adults must be enlightened and educated regarding the source and how to rise above it. I also believe that, with some guidance, most parents can play an integral part in helping an addicted child. Great work! Nice to see a professional shedding light on the truth.

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Matt Rudge
9/7/2024 03:11:39 am

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Matt Rudge
9/7/2024 03:12:28 am

My wife and I have been married for about 7 yrs now. We were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. 3 months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from her and a few weeks later I found out that my wife is seeing someone else. She started coming home late from work, she hardly cares about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes she goes out and doesn't even come back home for about 2-3 days. I did all I could to rectify this problem but all to no avail, I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr. Odunga can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and He can also cure diseases like HIV, AIDS, Herpes Virus, Cancer, E.T.C.. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and told him my problems and he told me what to do and I did it and he did a spell for me. 28 hours later, my wife came to me and apologized for the wrongs she did and promised never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. My family and I are living together happily again. All thanks to Dr. Odunga. If you have any problem contact him and I guarantee you that he will help you. He will not disappoint you.
Email him at : [email protected] or contact him via Whats App +2348167159012.

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